Complete 2025 Guide

What To Do When
Someone Dies

A compassionate, step-by-step guide for everything that needs to happen after losing a loved one — from the first hours to settling their estate.

10-minute read Covers all 50 states Updated March 2025
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In the First 24 Hours

The hours immediately after a death are often a blur of emotion and unexpected tasks. Here's what needs to happen first — and what can wait.

⚠ Important

If the death was unexpected or unattended at home, call 911 first. Do not move the body. If the death was expected (hospice, terminal illness), call the hospice provider or the person's physician — not 911. They will issue the death pronouncement.

1
Immediately
Have the death officially pronounced
A doctor, hospice nurse, or medical examiner must certify the death. This is required before a body can be transported anywhere. In a hospital or care facility, staff will handle this for you.
2
Within Hours
Notify immediate family
Contact the closest family members and trusted friends. If the deceased was in another state, check if any close family needs to travel. Designate one person (ideally yourself or a trusted family member) to be the primary contact so information flows through one channel.
3
Within 24 Hours
Contact a funeral home
The funeral home will transport the body and guide the next steps. You don't need to finalize services immediately — just initiate contact. If you're unsure which to choose, you can call multiple homes to compare. Costs vary significantly — see section 2.
4
Within 24–48 Hours
Secure the home and valuables
If the deceased lived alone, secure their residence. Change no locks, remove nothing, and document anything valuable. If there is a will, the executor has legal authority over the estate — not family members.

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Funeral & Memorial Services

Planning a funeral while grieving is genuinely hard. Understanding your options — and the real costs — helps you make decisions without pressure.

Funerals in the U.S. average between $7,000 and $12,000. A direct cremation (the most affordable option) typically runs $700–$2,500. You have the legal right to request an itemized price list from any funeral home — the FTC Funeral Rule requires them to provide it.

For a complete walkthrough of funeral planning, see our guide: How to Plan a Funeral: Complete Checklist & Cost Guide.

💡 Money-Saving Tip

You are not required to purchase a casket from the funeral home. Third-party casket retailers like Costco or Overnight Caskets sell identical caskets for 50–70% less, and funeral homes are legally required to accept them.

Obituary, flowers & memorial services

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Death Certificates & Key Documents

Death certificates are the foundational document for nearly every step that follows. Order more than you think you'll need — reordering later is a hassle.

The funeral home typically files the death certificate with the state and can order certified copies for you. The cost is usually $10–$25 per copy depending on the state.

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Financial Accounts & Benefits

There are a surprising number of financial institutions and government agencies that need to be notified. Do these one at a time — each requires a certified death certificate.

💡 Survivor Tip

A surviving spouse may be entitled to a one-time Social Security death benefit ($255) and monthly survivor benefits. Eligibility depends on age, marital status, and work history. Call the SSA at 1-800-772-1213 or visit ssa.gov.

Financial & insurance services

06

Real Estate & Property

Real property is typically the most valuable and most complex part of any estate. Options include selling, transferring to heirs, or renting — each with different tax and legal implications.

How real estate is handled depends on how it was titled. Property held in a living trust or as joint tenants with right of survivorship can bypass probate. Property titled in the deceased's name alone goes through probate before it can be transferred or sold.

💰 Tax Note

Inherited property receives a "stepped-up" cost basis — meaning heirs pay capital gains only on appreciation after the date of death, not from the original purchase price. This can save tens of thousands in taxes. Consult a CPA or estate attorney before selling.

Real estate & estate sale services

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Digital Assets & Online Accounts

In 2025, the average person has 150+ online accounts. Handling them prevents identity theft, preserves memories, and closes out recurring charges.

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Grief & Support Resources

There is no right way to grieve. But you don't have to go through this alone. There are real, effective resources — many of them free.

Grief can manifest as sadness, anger, numbness, physical exhaustion, or all of these at once. It doesn't follow a timeline. Professional support — whether therapy, grief counseling, or support groups — consistently helps people process loss more effectively than going it alone. See our full resource guide: Grief Support Resources: How to Cope With Loss.

Frequently Asked Questions

What is the very first thing to do when someone dies?
If the death was unexpected, call 911. If it was expected (hospice, terminal illness), call the hospice provider or physician to officially pronounce the death. Then notify immediate family and contact a funeral home within the first day.
How many death certificates do I need to order?
Order 10–12 certified copies. You'll need them for banks, insurance companies, Social Security, the DMV, real estate transfers, credit cards, brokerage accounts, and more. It's much easier to order extras upfront than to reorder later through the vital records office.
Do all estates go through probate?
No. Assets with designated beneficiaries (life insurance, IRAs, 401ks), assets held in a living trust, and jointly-held assets generally pass outside of probate. Probate is only required for assets solely titled in the deceased's name without a beneficiary designation.
How long does estate settlement take?
Simple estates with a clear will typically take 6–12 months. Complex estates or those without a will can take 1–3 years depending on the state, court backlogs, and any disputes between heirs.
Am I responsible for my parent's debts after they die?
Generally, no. Adult children are not personally responsible for a deceased parent's debts. The estate is responsible for paying debts. However, if you co-signed a loan or credit card, you remain liable for that debt. Consult an estate attorney if you're unsure.

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